.Sunday, February 21, 2010 ' 5:41 AM Y
tricia said,
After reading Sandra's post, I find it super apt. It's like.. you've got to admit that it's true sometimes. In a relationship, you'll always have a certain point of time, or many points of time when you feel super disappointed, either in yourself, or in the person that you're with. Then again, it's usually with yourself because you'll start asking yourself, the things you do that would cause such a result, then the blame all goes on you. But the other person would somehow interpret that to be something that we're not thinking of, they would think that we're disappointed in them, that we don't really understand them, that we're so.. unfeeling and all. But the thing is, even when we're disappointed with them, we would be disappointed in ourselves first.
That's why, I do believe that men are for mars and women are from venus. Cos' guys never seem to get the things girls do for them, and I'm sure girls don't understand the things guys do to them either. It's not that we choose to hide those emotions under our skin, it's like, we refuse to show them because we don't want you to think that you are the cause of all the sadness and stuff, so, sometimes, it's better for us to hide them somewhere where nobody will ever see. What we are doing, is not to hide things from guys, it's to "protect" them, it's to... stop them from being sad, stop them from thinking about things that we're not thinking of, stop them from being paranoid.
Girls tend to think a lot about what they're going to do, and what they're going to say, to prevent unnecessary disappointment and misunderstanding, therefore we don't really express ourselves much as we're afraid that we might hurt you with our words. Guys tend to just speak straightforward, tell girls straight to the point, even if it hurts. That's the big difference about girls and guys, which is almost always the cause of disappointments and arguments.
Girls are afraid to promise, cos' they think about the things they're going to promise and are afraid that they cannot keep it, thus there's always that thought about how we're going to keep that promise forever. Guys just promise, and hope that those promises would be kept, even if it didnt, then, too bad. They don't think about how much it means to the other person.
Well, you've got to believe that guys, and girls, are totally different. But then again, opposites attract. It's weird, but it happens, cos' shit happens. I'm supposed to be studying, but ohwells, I just spent 20 mins of my life doing this. GREAT. I shall start praying for my three tests on tuesday. [:
xx,